We have some great friends. I just can’t get over that and I hope I never will. We have people who are able to speak into our life, who are able to question our decisions but respect us at the same time. For the past six months or longer, we’ve been struggling with a hard decision (Yes, the same one I was a wreck about a few posts ago!) and the one thing that kept us back from going through with what we knew to be God’s desire for us, was our friends. Which isn’t/wasn’t a bad thing… in fact, it was the opposite. It’s fabulous to know you have people who you are so tied to that making a big change in your life is harder because of how it will affect those relationships.
Which brings me to my subject… In trying to make our decision alone, without bringing anyone else into our thought process, we didn’t realize how it was going to affect those around us. We failed to love them enough to tell them the truth, to tell them we were struggling with fulfilling our identity in Christ. Yeah, I’m sure they knew we were having issues, but they never really knew how deep it was until the decision was made. That was unfair to those people. They are important to us, but I feel like we didn’t treat them that way.
You may not see it that way. Some decisions should be made in the privacy of our home. And maybe… But I was reading in James about motives behind our actions and he was talking more about serving, but it just hit me that we were selfish when we didn’t trust our friends with the truth and allow them to pray for us and with us.
And also, we didn’t trust God to work out things in his timing. Fortunately, God still performed his miracle. I’ve been debating with a friend this past week over our decision and over the weekend, He brought her around to understand why we made our decision. It doesn’t mean she likes it or that I like it, but it’s what needs to happen for our family. And it was perfect timing.
Anyway, there’s this really cheesy song that they used to play for me and my sister every time we had to go to Ohio for the entire summer to spend with our dad and it keeps coming to mind. Warning: if you know this song, no matter how hard you try not to, you will probably start singing it to yourself… possibly for days :). Sorry in advance!
And friends are friends forever
If the Lord’s the Lord of them
And a friend will not say, “Never”
‘Cause the welcome will not end
Though it’s hard to let you go
In the father’s hands, we know
That a lifetime’s not too long
To live as friends